Transitioning Times

In the course of life, many of us will become the recipient of a victim’s disclosure of abuse or assault. In the work of domestic violence and sexual assault counselors, assault or abuse disclosures are common. When a survivor discloses to someone who places blame on the victim, rather than on the perpetrator, many say they feel as though they are experiencing a second assault.  Each time a survivor shares their story and unburdens themselves of a very private and traumatic secret, the listener should be aware of the privilege and responsibility that comes with being trusted with a moment of exceptional vulnerability.  Just a few important words in response to a disclosure, can profoundly affect the course of the survivor’s healing journey. Try using these phrases to communicate your support and acknowledgment of a victim’s experience: “I believe you.”  Three powerful words can set the tone for the survivor’s internal narrative. If she plans to tell her story wid...