Transitioning Times

TRIGGER WARNING: SEXUAL VIOLENCE             Why didn't I fight? This is probably the question I am most asked by others. For a long time, it was a question I could not stop asking myself. The following is an excerpt from my memoir, written years ago when I was still grappling with that question.             “Right,” I told him at the intersection. He smiled and turned left.             “What are you doing?” I asked, my voice jumping in fear, which I tried to disguise as playfulness. Of course this was a joke. See? I get that it’s a joke. Now turn around. Turn around. Turn around. My eyes focused on my hands on my lap, the seatbelt tight across my chest, suddenly feeling too tight. The inside of his car was grey, all grey. I wanted to think of what to say, to do, but all I could think about was the grey. ...

World Elder Abuse Awareness Day (WEAAD) – June 15, 2017 and EVERYday June 2017 by Tara R., Medial/Legal Advoate The United Nations has designated June 15, 2017 as the 12 th Annual World Elder Abuse Awareness Day with t he theme being   “Understand and End Financial Abuse of Older People: A Human Rights Issue.” The issue of Elder Abuse is of international concern due to the increasing size of the older adult population, to the fact that it is among the least investigated types of violence even though 5-10% of senior citizens experience financial exploitation in addition to other types of abuse, and to the lack of reporting whether due to shame and embarrassment or cognitive difficulties. A variety of organizations and agencies around the globe will join in efforts to raise awareness about this global problem. The 3 rd Global Summit on Elder Abuse will take place on WEAAD in Washington, D.C. as well. What is Elder Abuse? According to The Elder Justice Roadmap , ...

At Transitions' Annual Auction on June 1, 2017, former Executive Director Dr. Margaret "Marty" Gates was presented the Pete Macky Advocacy Award by Judge Michael Hudock and Nancy Macky. Pete Macky inspired us to create this award. Last year, as his retirement approached, we were excited to present this award to Pete who was preparing to travel extensively and enjoy his retirement. With some of his free time, Pete was a mentor to Elizabeth deCastro, Esq. and Jamie Grobes, the staff of our newly formed Transitions Legal Center (TLC).  Pete helped us establish this Center and, as always, left his indelible mark, complete with his remarkable knowledge and humility.  Pete richly deserved this award for his amazing dedication to the rights of victims in the Susquehanna Valley.  He was the best of his time and will remain with us forever through his legacy of caring and commitment to the underserved among us.  As an attorney with North Penn Legal Services, Pete was the...

Seventeen years ago this month, my daughter died from injuries suffered in a car accident.  She had just graduated from high school; she had won a scholarship to NYU, and was looking forward to a summer internship at the United States Institute for Peace in Washington, D.C.  During this time of anguish and grief, many of my family members, friends, and coworkers seemed lost and unable to talk to me.  They didn’t know what to say or do – and so many of them said and did nothing.  Years later, many would apologize and ask me to forgive them for their inability to share in my grief and show their compassion for what I was going through.  I often think about that time in my life. Family and friends who braved the pain of losing Manda with me, who came and held my hand, shared a memory, cried and laughed with me, and brought me food and drink will always have a special place in my heart.  They didn’t talk about their own losses, but shared fully in my loss....

Although I am constantly reminded about how much the community supports the work that we do, the allies who agreed to take on acting roles in the  Mock Trial made me believe that we may be able to change the rape culture that exists in our society.  On Tuesday, April 18, I walked into Courtroom 1 of the Northumberland County Courthouse and was pleasantly surprised by a full courtroom.  The Mock Trial in a case named U.S. v Michael Davis focused on a college relationship in which a young woman alleged that she was raped.  It was a complicated case, as most sexual assault cases are.  There were no witnesses to what took place and alcohol was involved.  The victim, who had been drinking, had not given her consent to have sex but the defendant proceeded, even after she had said “no.”  The jury, comprised of volunteers from the audience, found the defendant, a college-age man, guilty of the lesser charge of misdemeanor sexual assault.  Two years ago, ...

In the course of life, many of us will become the recipient of a victim’s disclosure of abuse or assault. In the work of domestic violence and sexual assault counselors, assault or abuse disclosures are common. When a survivor discloses to someone who places blame on the victim, rather than on the perpetrator, many say they feel as though they are experiencing a second assault.  Each time a survivor shares their story and unburdens themselves of a very private and traumatic secret, the listener should be aware of the privilege and responsibility that comes with being trusted with a moment of exceptional vulnerability.  Just a few important words in response to a disclosure, can profoundly affect the course of the survivor’s healing journey. Try using these phrases to communicate your support and acknowledgment of a victim’s experience: “I believe you.”  Three powerful words can set the tone for the survivor’s internal narrative. If she plans to tell her story wid...

            When it comes to sexual harassment and assault, taking a few steps backward in regards to protections is never a good thing. April was sexual assault awareness month (SAAM), where we highlight the problem of sexual assault a little more heavily than usual. Much advancement has been made over the years in combatting sexual assault; however, the fight is far from over. On March 27 th , just a few days before he would make a declaration that April would be SAAM, President Donald Trump signed an executive order overturning the Fair Pay and Safe Workplaces Act, signed by President Barak Obama in 2014. Among other protections, this act would require companies who have federal contracts to be open about what they’re paying their employees and not allow them to keep sexual harassment, sexual assault, or discrimination allegations or cases in private. This is called an arbitration clause, which companies put in employees’ contracts “to keep sex discri...